No one has ever described me as nice. Not that I am mean, but nice just isn't usually the first word that pops up when someone describes me. Maybe outspoken, or opinionated, or blunt. Perhaps honest, or organized, or clean freak, but generally not nice. Not kind or compassionate or tender. I don't even describe myself that way. I am more realistic, more to the point. Think Dr. Phil. I call it like I see it. I am not one to sugar coat things. Are you getting the picture? So while I am not a mean person, I am not really an overly nice one either. And that has started to bug me. I think nice thoughts. I feel kindness towards people, but I don't really say it that often. Take for example my best friend, Rochelle. I think she is pretty amazing. She is a wonderful friend, a great mother to her son, and a pretty rockin' wife to her husband. I have thought that for a long time, but it wasn't until today that it occurred to me to tell her. (which obviously led me to writing this post) Why have I never mentioned that to her? Probably because being nice isn't a priority in my life. Sad, isn't it.
So my Friday five today is a list of things I am going to do to try and be more "on purpose" about being nice. And here's the thing...I am generally very nice to strangers, just not to people I know.....so all of these are for my immediate friends and family!
1. Make a better effort to communicate with family members. Picking up the phone to say hello and I love you is probably better than sending a text or email, so I will start with that. If you are related to me and haven't gotten a call lately...watch out.
2. Remember to send birthday cards. I used to be such a pro at this. I was never late, always remembered and even got cards out to Jason's side of the family. With children and a digital calendar, I have fallen off the wagon. I don't think I have sent a birthday card this entire year. Pathetic.
3. Be more intentional to tell my girlfriends how wonderful they are. I don't have a lot of girlfriends, so letting the ones I do have know how blessed I am to have them in my life should probably be more of a priority.
4. Watch what I say. This might be the hardest. As I mentioned I tend to call it like I see it. Not always a plus. So I am and have been, working to keep my mouth shut a little more!
5. Be more thoughtful and helpful. Having a baby, lose a family member, kids driving you crazy? I might just bring you dinner, or babysit your kids, or send you a present. My good friend Stephanie is the queen of thoughtfulness. This year alone she has sent me three magazine subscriptions at random all on things I am really interested in. Why? Because Stephanie is nice and thoughtful. She thinks of others, and she is helpful. As you can probably guess, Stephanie has about a bazillion friends.
So while my gift-ed-ness may be more in the area of administration/organization, I am aiming to be more nice. I'll let you know how it goes!
What area do you excel in? What area do you wish you were better in? I would love to know I am not alone!!!